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Dating Women

Romantic Dinner Well, actually, this is about the first date I ever went on with a woman as opposed to dating women in general.

The date was simple. We went to dinner at a very nice restaurant that she chose. She made the reservations. She took care of all the details.  All I knew was how I needed to be dressed & what time to arrive where.  Ahhh, sometimes it's so nice to have it all taken care of & just to have to show up.  There was none of the "What do you want to do? I dunno, what do you want to do?" game played. I despise that game whether dating a man or woman.  Just pick already! Take charge!  And she did.  I love dinner as a date because a) I LOVE Food & b) We have no choice but pay attention to each other (smartphones weren't a big thing then either).  So much can be learned from someone at a meal if it is a new relationship.  It's a great way to relax, be catered to by wait staff  & enjoy each other if it's a more established relationship.  We had a great time talking, cracking jokes, being flirty & sharing thoughts.

Hand

After dinner we went for a walk.  Hand in hand, we roamed around Manhattan continuing the conversation.  My stomach bubbled with butterflies from holding another woman's hand in public.  But then I gave myself a pep talk: I went to art school, we held hands, laid all over &  massaged each other often. I got this! I felt a sudden wetness between my legs. "Whoa, am I that turned on?", was my initial thought. We stopped somewhere so that I could use the rest room. The wetness was not excitement. It was my period. Ugh, *Sigh*. I told her when I got back to her. She said, "Let's go to my place." I agreed & we walked to her apartment. She sat me down & told me to wait. I had no idea what I was waiting for. Being on a date with a woman was a brand new experience so the unknown was exciting. After a few moments, she takes me by the hand, leading me to the bathroom.  It's filled with small, white scented candles.  Steam from the warm shower fills the air.  I turn around to face her with probably the goofiest smile ever.  She shows me a fresh towel folded in the corner waiting for me.  "Enjoy", she says before leaving me to my warm, candle lit shower.  Is this real life?

3 candles

I get out of the shower wrapped in the fresh towel.  She walks me over to her room which has tall, white, seven-day candles lit all around the edges of the room.  She gives me shorts, a t-shirt & invites me to lay down. I do. She leaves again. When she returns she has a hot cup of tea. "Do you want ibuprofen?", she asks. Convinced that I am in a dream I nod yes. She gives me both. After sipping the tea, I lay back down. Why is it that the pain from cramps waits until your eyes have seen the blood to begin? I was fine when I thought I was just excited. She lays down with me.  We spoon and she rubs my stomach until I fall asleep.

This is what hotel bathrooms look like with a ...

I woke up hours later and looked around. The candles were still there though burned markedly lower. This really happened.

ESSENCE REVEALED - Essence Revealed is first generation Bajan born & raised in Boston.  She got her BFA at NYU's Tisch School of the Arts and MA at NYU's Steinhardt School of Education.  Her writing has appeared places such as $pread Magazine, Corset Magazine, BurlesqueBible.com and 21st Century Burlesque.  She now performs & teaches nationally and internationally both solo and as a member of Brown Girls Burlesque.  Her favorite thing to do besides reading is to lay on the beach in Barbados to rest up for a night of calypso dancing.  Help Essence get to the Milan Burlesque Awards!

2012 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here's an excerpt:

4,329 films were submitted to the 2012 Cannes Film Festival. This blog had 29,000 views in 2012. If each view were a film, this blog would power 7 Film Festivals

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ESSENCE REVEALED - Essence Revealed is first generation Bajan born & raised in Boston.  She got her BFA at NYU's Tisch School of the Arts and MA at NYU's Steinhardt School of Education.  Her writing has appeared places such as $pread Magazine, Corset Magazine, BurlesqueBible.com and 21st Century Burlesque.  She now performs & teaches nationally and internationally both solo and as a member of Brown Girls Burlesque.  Her favorite thing to do besides reading is to lay on the beach in Barbados to rest up for a night of calypso dancing.

Backstage at Funk to the Future Thursday Night.

This show was so fun I hope we get it going again soon.  Can't wait to see the official pictures of Brown Girls Burlesque with the band:  Burnt Sugar Arkestra.  This night was

outer space special!

burnt sugar arkestra

vriend from outer space

Burlesque Hall of Fame Weekend 2012 Jean Idelle Master Fan Class

So, I have been wanted to increase my burlesque skills and add fan dancing.  Then I find out this is going on?  I had the pleasure of speaking with Ms. Idelle at the Legend's Fundraiser Brown Girls Burlesque hosted.

Thanks for the hook up Universe :-D!!!

FRIDAY JUNE 1

All classes are $45, and will take place in the back room of Big Al’s

Jean Idelle1-2 PM The Art of Performing with Ostrich Feather Fans with Jean Idelle! What is more alluring than a dance with Ostrich feather fans? Learn what goes in to choosing music for fan dances, the tricks to clothing removal while manipulating fans, how fan size affects choreography, and ask Jean YOUR questions about her performance experience and style! Jean worked the fans with grace on the burlesque circuit from 1950 to 1960, performing all over the US and Canada. Featured in Jet, Hue, and Our World magazine, Jean was a featured attraction at Minsky’s Rialto Theatre in Chicago! https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/249407

Group Class Fri May 25th RSVP by Wed May 23rd!

***Sorry Fellas, This class is for female identified people. However I do teach private lessons for anyone. So pass this onto a lady friend or two.***

This Friday night warm up is a group class will lead you thru all moves from the floor to the chair.

There is also the ever popular & requested booty twirk portion of the class ;-) Moves from decade of actual stripping experience are brought to you by Essence Revealed.

It is fun, candle lit me time filled with chocolate, strawberries, laughter & permission to play. Essence co-conspires with you to create your very own lap dance routine.

Leave with a confidence boost and a great workout that does not feel like a workout.

Dress comfortably: leggings, shorts, t-shirts or camisoles. Not required but bring an iPod with your own music & heels to practice in enhance the fun.

STUDIO NUMBER REVEALED WITH RSVP: *$30/adv www.sensualessence.storenvy.com

*$40/day of cash, credit & debit accepted with prior RSVP only by emailing:

essencerevelaed@gmail.com

12 Quotes That Get Me Through

Nolan Bushnell If I were to do a full quotes I love blog this week, we’d be here until next year.

With all the craziness in the news from politicians (Republicans feel free to exit my parts please) to innocent children being murdered (Travon is unfortunately only one that got media coverage) to outrage at a Hunger Games character being a sweet black young lady...  I have to tune out of that madness and back into the love I'm trying to bring into the world thru my work & being.  So here are just a quick dozen in no particular order...

"The critical ingredient is getting off your butt and doing something. It's as simple as that. A lot of people have ideas, but there are few who decide to do something about them now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. But today. The true entrepreneur is a doer, not a dreamer." - Nolan Bushnell, founder of Atari and Chuck E. Cheese's

 

“Entrepreneurship is living a few years of your life like most people wont so you can spend the rest of your life like most people can’t.” – A student in Warren G. Tracy’s class

 

"I had to make my own living and my own opportunity! But I made it! Don't sit down and wait for the opportunities to come. Get up and make them!" - Madam C.J. Walker, creator of a popular line of African-American hair care products and America's first black female millionaire

Madam C.J. Walker in an early automobile

 

“An entrepreneur tends to bite off a little more than he can chew hoping he’ll quickly learn how to chew it.” – Roy Ash

 

“Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

 

“The superior man is modest in his speech, but exceeds in his actions.” – Confucius

 "I have always found that my view of success has been iconoclastic: success to me is not about money or status or fame, its about finding a livelihood that brings me joy and self-sufficiency and a sense of contributing to the world." - Anita Roddick

Dame Anita Roddick plaque

“Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting.” – William Shakespeare

 

“Had we not loved ourselves at all, we could never have been obliged to love anything. So that self-love is the basis of all love.” – Thomas Traherne

“Each body has its art...” – Gwendolyn Brooks

Gwendolyn Brooks, Miami Book Fair Internationa...

“I am convinced that life in a physical body is meant to be an ecstatic experience.” – Shakti Gawain

Please add any of your favorite quotes in the comments section.  We can all come here when we need a little lift of inspiration.

Love, Peace & Essence

Group Class Fri March 23rd RSVP by Wed Mar 21st!

***Sorry Fellas, This class is for female identified people. However I do teach private lessons for anyone. So pass this onto a lady friend or two.***

This Friday night warm up is a group class will lead you thru all moves from the floor to the chair.

There is also the ever popular & requested booty twirk portion of the class ;-) Moves from decade of actual stripping experience are brought to you by Essence Revealed.

It is fun, candle lit me time filled with chocolate, strawberries, laughter & permission to play. Essence co-conspires with you to create your very own lap dance routine.

Leave with a confidence boost and a great workout that does not feel like a workout.

Dress comfortably: leggings, shorts, t-shirts or camisoles. Not required but bring an iPod with your own music & heels to practice in enhance the fun.

STUDIO NUMBER REVEALED WITH RSVP: *$30/adv www.sensualessence.storenvy.com

*$40/day of cash, credit & debit accepted with prior RSVP only. RSVP here or by emailing:

essencerevelaed@gmail.com

Self Care

Self care is a good.  Starting the day with sinus pain is bad.  Balance seems futile.

Sinus pain has been a constant part of my week.  I wake up feeling like I've had a cuh-ray-zee night out drinking but I did not.  I do a sinus rinse, if i can get an appointment, acupuncture works wonders.  This pain laughs at over the counter pain medications.  Yes, even the ones for severe migraines.  Nausea likes to come along for the ride.   I have no choice but to surrender to the N word:  Nothing.  This pain usually hits me once monthly but it's been making more frequent appearances lately.  Have I called the doctor whose number I got months ago?  No.

The first part of the day is spent brooding over all the productive things I could be doing if my sinuses would just love me & leave me alone.  Then I feel sorry for myself because my partner is away so I have to go buy my own soup & make tea for myself :-'(.  I go between sleeping & looking at social media sites.  Then late in the afternoon something clicks.  I just submit to it.  I am not feeling well.  The only thing I need to do right now is take care of myself.

A homemade chicken noodle soup with bread

I put on my comfy, fuzzy sweats.  I bundle myself in winter gear & go for a walk.  I get myself ginger for tea, sinus pain medication that worked one time & chicken noodle soup.  I walk slowly.  No New Yorker pace for me today.  When I get home I make a doctor's appointment I've been putting off.  I finally call the E.N.T. (ear nose & throat) specialist a friend suggested & left a message.  I climb in bed with my beloved pillows.  I cancel work for the night.  I rest.

As I lay waiting for the pain to go away, I think about how seldom I allow myself to do nothing.  It's so easy to work, work, work when one loves the work one does.  However, down time is just as important.  I always make sure to have a charger on me for my phone.  One lives in the house & one lives in my bag.  I make sure that my phone has ample battery power recovery time.  Yet, I run as if I have  limitless battery at times.  We all need to recharge.

So, I am asking you Gold starto join me this week in doing ONE self-care thing a day.  I even printed out a little chart.  I am going to buy myself some gold star stickers like back in elementary school too.  Don't judge me.  I printed this calendar out on an index card in business card size.  I've decided that morning meditation is the ONE self-care activity that I am absolutely committing to for the week.  It is extremely useful  for me to start the day this way.  Here is a list of 50 ways to practice self care without a dime if you're stumped on finding your ONE.

I'll post about how it goes.  Let me know how it goes for you.  Sometimes enlisting the help of others aids us in accountability.  Being accountable, especially to ourselves, is important.  Someone I know always says:  "Hey, even penguins get cold".

So, I lay down my superwoman cape & pick up a warm hat & scarf.  Let's Go!

This is my star card as of Friday 4 for 4 in my morning meditations:

How goes self-care week for you?  What did you decide to do for you?